Sunday, 6 May 2012

Sleep Training Day 3

What a day.

As you know from previous posts (Sleep training day 2) we've been having a bit of trouble getting our son to go to sleep and STAY asleep. I accept and respect that some people have a different view to us and that actually naturally children would all rather sleep next to their parents, all snuggly and safe and warm. The problem is that I just can't function like that. Maybe it's harking back to the perpetual childhood of adults of my generation, but I want and expect more for my life than being continuously with my children, day AND night unable to have any time to myself to pursue my own hopes and dreams. I've had rather a backlash today and received some comments that I have perceived as hurtful, maybe I got it wrong. I'm so damn tired I can't even think straight.

Anyway, back to the sleep training, last night was a total and utter......SUCCESS!! Without any crying at all my son slept his way through the night with no waking at all until 6am this morning. It was a little earlier than I would have liked but I felt absolutely AMAZING. The world seemed suddenly a better place, colours more vibrant, smells more..smelly. I felt human and could feel my limited sense of humour returning. More to the point my little boy was like a different child, he was happy and smiling, rather than grouchy and grumpy. He showed a new zest for life and lived today like it was the first day of the rest of his life. I can only say that this must be due to the new found structure to his life which he is, so far, thriving on. He also did not bite us at all today, which is very unusual for him, could it be we have "cracked it"?

Anyway, here is a picture of the little man at his very loveliest.

See smile as evidence of good nights sleep!
Thanks once again to Brenda - our saviour.


10 comments:

  1. Aww such a gorgeous picture, and congrats on another good night x

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    1. Thanks, you don't want to hear about day 4!

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  2. Well done to you all! I know doing this was not a decision you took lightly, but clearly it is just what was needed! You will all benefit from it I'm sure! XXX

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    1. Thanks! Him sleeping through has been my only wish for the past few months, I'm hoping we are nearly there!

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  3. everything crossed that you have indeed cracked it! 6am is still the middle of the night to me but its a definite sleep in for you, well done, hope the gorgeous boy sleeps well tonight too.

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    1. I remember a time when waking up at 6am on a Sunday would have been treasonous! Now I consider it a "good night". How times have changed!

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  4. Hello, I just stumbled across your blog and I applaud you for putting your experience out there in such detail - I think it's brave of you. I don't agree with sleep training, for what it's worth, mainly because I think that children benefit massively from co-sleeping and I think there have been studies measuring cortisol levels in babies and toddlers who cry and that even short amounts of crying can lead to elevated stress levels. Having said that it has been hard work at times being an attachment parent to my two and a half year old, and at times I thought I was going mad with the stress of sleep deprivation, so I understand your feeling a need to do something about it. I personally wouldn't and haven't ever let my child cry for any length of time since he was born and now he sleeps through. So if you *can* stick it out (and I appreciate that some mums can't!) it does happen in the end. I hope you and your family enjoy the extra sleep you get xx

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    1. Thanks for taking the time to comment. As I said in my post he didn't actually cry as he slept right through so luckily we didn't need to make that choice. All he needed was for us to stop him having a morning nap! I wish I had realised that was all it would take.

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  5. Hi, Hope your boy is improving with his sleeping. For what it's worth your new approach makes sense to me. I've never been big on labelling things - "controlled crying", "co-sleeping", "sleep training". Don't you have to "train" your children to do anything? You need to reinforce good behaviour and try to curtail unwanted behaviour. It seems to me that you should listen to friends and professionals and come up with something that works for you. Stick with it!

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    1. I agree, most of us "parent" and mix it up and do a bit of everything. I think labelling ourselves and our techniques one way or another can be quite restrictive, it should be mix and match! I agree about the training...surely we are all "trained" or socialised to some extent, I've never believed in utter conformity as I believe it breaks children's spirits, but the way things are with sleep at the moment it is my spirit that is breaking!

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